Have you ever been afraid to ask for something because you were afraid you'd get rejected? Whether you want to invite someone on a date or ask for a raise, the fear of hearing "no" can keep you from trying.
But according to my guest today, the sting of rejection probably isn't as painful as you think. But the cost of avoiding rejection might be worse.
My guest is Jia Jiang, the founder of 100 Days of Rejection, where he set out to get rejected on purpose every single day for 100 days straight. He's the author of Rejection Proof, and his new book Easy Discipline is coming out soon.
Some of the things we discuss are:
What Jia learned from asking a stranger for $100, requesting a burger refill, and knocking on random doors to ask if he could play soccer in the yard
The Krispy Kreme Olympic donuts story that went viral (and briefly moved the company's stock)
The mental script that runs in your head before you ask for something — and why it's almost always wrong
The single shift that turns you from someone who mirrors other people's energy into someone whose energy sets the tone
Why "no" isn't the end of a conversation — it's the start
The one line that lowers the temperature on any high-stakes ask (and gets you more yeses)
The story of Mike, whose fear of rejection nearly cost him the ability to advocate for his wife when she was diagnosed with cancer
Why "you either get a yes or an epic story" might be the most freeing thing you'll hear all week
The Therapist's Take: My top three strategies for becoming more rejection-proof starting today
Related Episodes
20 — Why Rejection Stings and What to Do About It with Harvard Professor/Author Dr. Ronald Siegel
152 — Conquer Any Fear with These Science-Backed Steps
Links & Resources
Rejection Proof
Easy Discipline
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