Some people are just not able to handle being put in the Friend Zone.
It’s
a pretty common thing. Two people meet by circumstance. Maybe they’re
college students who have a class together, or they could be
co-workers in an office. They get to know each other, and they become
really good friends. They end up spending a lot of time hanging out
together outside of work or school. They develop a close
relationship, maybe even confiding in each other and having some deep
conversations.
Then
there’s a problem that comes in. And I know this doesn’t just
happen in male-female relationships, and I don’t have any
statistics or studies to back this up; it’s just anecdotal. But
from what I’ve seen and read, one of the people, commonly the
woman, sees the relationship as platonic. They’re just wonderful
friends, and there’s no romance involved. But her male friend,
thinks otherwise. He’s developed feelings for this woman, and
thinks she might have feelings for him too.
Eventually
he might express those feelings verbally, or maybe he waits for what
he thinks is the right moment and tries to kiss her. That’s when
things fall apart. She explains to him that she sees him not as a
romantic partner, but just as a close friend. She just put him in the
Friend Zone.
And
different people handle this in different ways. He’s gonna be
disappointed of course, but what about beyond that? After he declared
his feelings for her, can they still be friends? Sometimes they can.
But
not always. My guest today, Marina, has experienced this. She told
this story on the podcast in one of the earliest episodes, back in
2019. She had a friend who actually scared her – because he took
things way too far.
Show
notes for this episode are here:
https://WhatWasThatLike.com/264
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for this episode by Bob Bretz. Transcription was done by James Lai.
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